I enrolled on an Open University course.
I was very very happy. At long long last we had enough money for me to afford doing some study on whatever I fancied. And I had fancied - in a real deep meaningful way, a way that made me feel depressed for years because there was always this ghost of 'studying' flittering around my head and I had never been able to lay that ghost to rest - that once I did some 'studying' I would forever be grateful and work hard at my studies and show everyone what a brilliant mind I had and that I really was intelligent so there!
So. I enrolled on this short course back in February. And I worked out, very seriously, the degree course I was going to aim for in October this year. And I knew my timetable inside out. And how much it would all cost. And how many years study it would take. And I knew why I had chosen the subject I had chosen.
And I was content.
In fact, I noticed in March that I had a new trickle of confidence flitting to and fro in my mind. A new sense of 'being'. I felt another level of 'difference' within myself. And I put that down to at long last laying the 'studying ghost' to rest. My little ghost was warm and snug and sleeping peacefully. And it was all a very pleasant experience.
And here we are in May.
I have now visited that far country that I have seen from afar for so many years. It is a lovely place. Exciting. Mysterious. Challenging. I am torn because I would love to live in that far country for a long long time. To explore all its nooks and crannys. To know it well. I am torn because I love another country that is closer to home. I cannot live in both places at once. And I cannot travel to and fro from one country to another. Alright - I could visit both countries in turn but I have decided not to do this.
Because.
It seems all I had to do was find a place for that ghost to rest peacefully. The poor thing was worn out with 41 years of regretful flittering in my head. Now that she is sleeping peacefully I find that it is not the 'studying' I was craving. It was the peace of mind I was craving.
The hills of that far country look inviting. But I have hills in my own country to roam across. I have many local pathways and byways to reconnoitre and explore.
So I shall give up this short Open University coursework. I shall delete the plans and degree timetable from my computer. I will say goodbye to the idea of 'studying'.
And take a big breath. And breath out slowly.
And nod my head as I agree with myself at what I have decided.
And I am happy.
GoingSomewhere
I'm sorry you've given up the idea of 'studying', but if you're happy without it and don't feel you need it, then I'm glad you've made the decision that is best for you. I suppose there comes a time when one no longer has to prove anything. Just be happy - that's what is most important. XXX